Happ-E-Newsletter for March 1, 2006

Welcome My Dearest Friend!

Stephen Covey said:

"As long as you think the problem is out there, that very thought is the problem."

10 TOP SECRETS TO UNHAPPINESS & HAPPINESS!

UNHAPPINESS

1. People or situations do not cause you to be unhappy!

2. Unhappiness is the feeling that results from thinking and believing that something is making you unhappy.

3. Your thinking is what makes you believe that something can cause you to be unhappy.

4. Unhappiness is the feeling that things should be different than the way they are.

5. Thinking causes unhappiness by your reaction to what you believe has the power to make you unhappy.

6. Thinking that anything can cause you to be unhappy makes you experience fear.

7.The fear created by your thinking causes you to continue to think unhappily.

8. Fear of people or events from the past repeating themselves in the future creates unhappiness.

9. Being unhappy means that I can now prove to everyone, including myself, that when something bad happens, I can prove I do not agree with it by being unhappy.

10. If I wasn't unhappy about a bad event, then that would prove to the world I do not care and therefore I am not a good person.

HAPPINESS

1. Happiness is the realization, and the feeling that results from the knowledge, that nothing can make you happy or unhappy without choosing it for yourself, and thus allowing it to happen.

2. Happiness is the practice and habit of not letting anything become more important to you than your happiness.

3. Happiness is realizing your power and not living with powerlessness, which is unhappiness disguised as fear.

4. By being happy you face your fear and experience your true power.

5. Happiness is freedom from fear by letting go of the past, the termination of worrying about the future and as a result, embracing and enjoying the present.

6. Being happy is accepting things the way they are, facing uncertainty without fear and enjoying the present.

7. You can be happy in a bad situation, or in a situation that you do not agree with. When you choose to be unhappy, it does not change the situation for the better, while it can easily make the situation worse.

8. Being happy does not mean that you agree with a bad situation. It means that you are using happiness to maintain your power over the situation by maintaining peace of mind, with a higher level of awareness, to effectively deal with the problem and thereby exercise the most effective choice available to you in the moment.

9. Being happy, when people have problems, does not mean you don't care about the people or their problems, it means you really care about making the situation better, while making things better for the people involved as well.

10. Love can turn to hurt and then to hate if it is not returned. When you want happiness for another, you do it because you want them to be happy. And you do it unconditionally because you don't insist that they must give you happiness back. Happiness is all you need.

BE HAPPY ZONE
By Lionel Ketchian

Published in the Fairfield Citizen-News - February 22, 2006

Life is complicated, happiness is simple!

Happiness Empowerment to You! LIVE RICHLY...PRACTICE HAPPINESS!

Sharing Love, Peace and Happiness with you,
Lionel Ketchian

Reminding you to make the "Happiness Decision." Giving you our Happiness Club Meeting dates, The Happiness Show, on television and on the Internet, the newest happiness information, and your latest copy of the Be Happy Zone Article's that are published every other Wednesday in the Fairfield Citizen-News. At the beginning of this newsletter you can read the latest article called:

10 TOP SECRETS TO UNHAPPINESS & HAPPINESS!

Beware the barrenness of a busy life. - Socrates

Think Smart, Look Smart, Be Smart...Be Happy!

"When first open my eyes upon the morning meadows and look out upon the beautiful world, I thank God I am alive." - Ralph Waldo Emerson

Thanks Lionel, for all your (for me) timely newsletters. I've written before, and each time it has been 'uncanny' how you have 'addressed' the 'stuff' going on in my life. 'Fear' of destitution, and strangers in my life were all but strangling me. I'm not out of the woods yet, but have 100% more control over my 'reactions' than I had a year ago. I am happy with everything I have, and must move forward to keep what I have, and the happiness in my life. In a way this is 'life-saving' karma you are giving us. Thanks...........Audrey

The Art Of Healing by Dr. Bernie Siegel

Bernie will be outlining survivor behavior with a discussion of Humor, Love, Hope & how it all has a role in our life and our health. You will have an opportunity to draw and participate in guided imagery and answer thought provoking questions.

Sunday, April 2nd, 2006

10:00 am - 4:00 pm

For Reservations, contact Keith or Jane Siegel (Wisdom Of The Ages) at: 860-651-1172

Cost is only $45, including the buffet lunch if you register before March 18th and $50 after that date.

I have registered and will be attending. Hope to see you there!

Happ-E-Quote :)

"The greatest good you can do for another is not just to share your riches but to reveal to him his own." - Benjamin Disraeli

Happ-E-Mail :)

Hi I am a social worker, and work with cancer and hospice patients and I think that your message would be a good one for me to be able to pass along. Please add me to your mailing list. Thank You, Jessica Bosovic, CSW, Cancer Services Social Worker

"Just think how happy you'd be if you lost everything and everyone you have right now, and then, somehow got everything back again." - Kobi Yamada

"Once you have mastered time, you will understand how true it is that most people overestimate what they can accomplish in a year -- and underestimate what they can achieve in a decade!" - Anthony Robbins

Happ-E-Mail :)
An article, called The New Science of Happiness, was in the Jan/ Feb issue of a magazine called Men's Health. It mentioned attending a Happiness Club meeting in an municipal office in New England.

I am fine. Growing and expanding beyond my old emotional boundaries. Working and making time to rest and recoup. I just got booked to do a "Dream Your Relationship Into Being" workshop and one on "I can Heal Myself and I Will" up in MA. I also joined a professional playwrights group and am trying my hand at it. I love the winter. It allows me to spend times indoors. I love listening to the winds howl off the river or sit back and listen to classical music. I really enjoy my own company.

"Some day people will learn that material things do not bring happiness and are of little use in making people creative and powerful." - Charles Steinmetz (1865-1923) Electrical engineer

Dr. Robert Muller & Barbara Gaughen Muller

The Karpeles Manuscript Library Museum, 21 W. Anapamu St. Santa Barbara, CA
Sunday, March 19, 2006 from 1:30 – 3:30 p.m.
(Registration begins at 1 p.m., closes at 1:30 p.m.) NO ADMISSION FEE

The United Nations’ legendary Robert Muller maintains with the Dalai Lama that happiness is the purpose of life. With the re-release of Muller’s 1978 classic Most of All They Taught Me Happiness, he and his wife Barbara Gaughen Muller are committed to teaching "why happiness works," how it’s a choice, and that being happy is actually proof that you are living your code of destiny. Learn how DECIDING to be happy even in the most difficult situations contributes to the health and well-being of ourselves, each other and the entire planet.

Co-Sponsors: The Karpeles Manuscript Library Museum; Area Agency on Aging; Life Chronicles. Presented by the OMEGA Program of Santa Barbara City College, Continuing Education Division

Happ-E-Mail :)

A poem from, David

Hello I am Ready

To be in charge of this moment
And to welcome the very next one
And to embrace this breath and the next one
And to say enough to old scripts, old fears and darkness.

"The world is full of poetry. The air is living with its spirit; and the waves dance to the music of its melodies, and sparkle in its brightness." - Percival

Happ-E-Mail :)

Count me in. I'm a therapeutic Clown teaching people how to get in contact with their inner Clown in order to regain their inner freedom, spontaneity, creativity and JOY AND ZEST for living. I would love to be a part of your international movement for happiness. Keep me updated, love to meet you. Living here in Israel. Love, laughter and kisses, Jeff Gordon

"If you like a man's laugh before you know anything of him, you may say with confidence that he is a good man." - Fyodor Dostoevsky

A New Happ-E-Club :)

We have a new Happiness Club at Bridge House, with meetings every Tuesday at 12:00 PM for a happy meal and a happy hour meeting!

YES! I have gotten so much positive feedback already, and you have only been gone 30 minutes! One participant told me that she woke up this morning overwhelmed by all her problems, and your presence today was a gift to her. We are on to something very BIG. Thank you for everything. Still beaming, Phyllis Freeman, MS

Happ-E-Quote :)

"The line separating good and evil passes not through states, nor between political parties either--but right through every human heart." - Alexsandr Solzhenitsyn

Happ-E-Mail :)

Kindness Transforms You

Developing a love for kindness transforms your life, just as you transform the lives of others.
Kindness is one of the pillars of the world. Every act of kindness elevates your character and makes you a kinder person. And, as you continue to increase your love for kindness, you increase the amount of joy in your life.

From Rabbi Pliskin's book: Kindness

Happ-E-Mail :)

Olah..happiness to you too from rainy Spain. I am reading one of your happiness books and thinking of you. Michael is going diving in Honduras instead of joining me this year..we send our love to u across the miles and thank u for adding sooo much to ours lives and way of thinking..love to all Jammie

Happ-E-Heaven:)
HEAVEN#1941 Good Fortune February 27, 2006
You protest the rain when it has already stopped raining, is that not so? You can let life be. You do not have to fight it. You do not have to balk at it. You don’t have to pan it. Make a decision to enjoy life. Drag your feet no longer. If you think life is a drag, who has been dragging it?

No longer pound your fists at life. How much more energy you will have when you let go of your supposed control of life, when you let life be. You will let life be of its own accord. It will make its own entrances and exits. You will be a watcher in the audience.

You will enjoy life more. To have more enjoyment in life doesn’t mean that you become passive and uncaring. It means you awaken and care in a more generous way. It means you can allow yourself to come alive. It means you will stop being a critic of life. You won’t referee life. You will become a star player, win or lose. In fact, you won’t even think of winning and losing. You will play the game with alacrity. You will enter the game with good will, and keep on playing.

Happ-E-Mail :)

I certainly enjoyed the meeting last night of the Smiling Single Seniors Happiness Club. It was nice to meet new people and to stretch again, by being present to other people and learning from them. Great group of people, very interesting, I enjoyed myself. When I arrived home last night, I sat and journaled about the evening, the people that I met and how nice everyone is.

I need to work at pleasing myself and doing the best that I can and to be happy with where I am at this time. I will always try to improve myself, which is a good thing, we all need to grow and learn from others and take what applies to us and leave the rest for whomever needs those other items.

I really enjoy conversing with you, you actually listen to what each of us has to say. Amazing, most people ask questions and you barely get the answer out and they are not even listening. Thanks for being you and for bringing happiness into each of our lives.

I do understand that happiness is the highest achievement. I just slide back, but I keep striding forward and hopefully take more step forwards than back. I love our groups of people as they are so diverse and fun to be around. Most of them have the happiness in place in their lives and I want it too. If you keep surrounding yourself with what you want you will get there. Enough for today, thanks again for all of your happiness. Cheerfully, Mary

The Happiness Show on TV:)

Watch "The Happiness Show," every Monday night, at 9:30 - 10:00 PM. Your co-hosts are Lionel Ketchian and George Ortega. The TV show is broadcast in six towns on Cablevision of Connecticut channel 77. It airs in Bridgeport, Fairfield, Milford, Orange, Stratford and Woodbridge. Watch "The Happiness Show," every Thursday night from 9:00 - 9:30 PM on Cablevision in White Plains, New York on channel 76.

FAIRFIELD, CONNECTICUT HAPPINESS CLUB MEETING :)

Our next Happiness Club meeting will be a presentation called:

"Gems of Happiness," by Lynette Turner and"Accept, Enjoy & Be Happy" by Lionel Ketchian.

Date :) Thursday, March 16, 2006

Time :) 7:00 - 9:00 P.M.
Place :) At the Fairfield Public Library, in the Rotary Room

Address :) 1080 Old Post Road, Fairfield, CT 06824

Meet some wonderful people using happiness in their lives. Everyone is welcome; admission is free.

Future meetings at the Fairfield Library will be Thursday, April 13, Thursday, May 18, 2006

Happ-E-Quote :)

"When we feel love and kindness toward others, it not only makes others feel loved and cared for, but it helps us also to develop inner happiness and peace." - His Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama

BRIDGEPORT, CONNECTICUT BRIDGE HOUSE HAPPINESS CLUB :)

The Happiness Club at Bridge House has meetings every Tuesday at 12:00 PM for a happy meal and a happy hour!

Phyllis Freeman, MS is the group facilitator.

WESTPORT, CONNECTICUT SMILING SINGLE SENIORS HAPPINESS CLUB :)

We would had our first meeting of the Smiling Single Seniors Happiness Club Meeting. The Group met on Monday, February 27 from 7:00 - 8:30 PM at the Westport Public Library at: Arnold Bernhard Plaza, 20 Jesup Road, Westport, CT 06880. The Westport Public Library is located along the Saugatuck River in Westport, Connecticut.

Future meetings will be on Mondays as follows:
Monday, March 27th, April 24th, May 22nd, June 26th, July 24th

Smiling Senior Singles is a group for seniors who have found themselves alone. Many people, who live in the area, have found themselves without any family. This can be difficult, so it is important to find friends you can relate to. Meet some wonderful people and start using happiness in your life.

Stacey Enyeart is the group facilitator. Stacey has a background in publishing, advertising, TV producing and is President of the AARP of Westport/Weston Chapter.

SAN FRANCISCO, CALIFORNIA HAPPINESS CLUB MEETING :)

The Option Method

Date: Sunday March 5th

Time: 3:00 - 5:00 PM

Meeting Location: 1485 Church St. Apt #1 SF, CA 94131

(corner of 27th Street in Noe Valley).
You can exit on 24th street BART and walk about 10 – 15 minutes or take the J Church which drops you off right in front of our house. Please RSVP because it helps us prepare. I hope to see you there! Aymee

Now for the good stuff…the topic of the meeting….
We are honored to have a special guest, Deborah Mendel, who co-wrote the book: The Principles and Philosophy of The Option Method. The Option Method was developed by Bruce Di Marsico in the 1970's. It is listed in the top 20 best happiness books on our website. It is a very powerful way for us to approach and solve many of life's problems that keep us from leading happy lives. Deborah is also working on a workbook for students of the Option Method. This is a wonderful opportunity for members of the Happiness Club to learn about one of the most powerful ways to happiness; making the decision to be happy!

Join us on March 5th and bring your happy or unhappy friends! The more the merrier! In happiness, Aymee & Bob

Bob Nozik, M.D. is the author of Happy 4 Life: Here’s How to Do It.

Happ-E-Quote :)

"Goodness is the only investment that never fails." - Henry David Thoreau (1817-1862)

WILMINGTON, NORTH CAROLINA HAPPINESS CLUB :)

The Happiness Club Of North Carolina in Wilmington, will be meeting on the last Tuesday of each the month at 7:00 PM.

Richard D. Banton, LCSW is calling it the Happiness Institute.

The club will initially be a free one hour discussion/seminar on a topic pertaining to happiness.

Richard hopes to also start a weekly S.M.A.R.T. recovery group in the near future as well as an alternative to AA. Check out www.smartrecovery.org sometime when you get a chance.

SMART Recovery® is recognized by the American Academy of Family Physicians, the Center for Health Care Evaluation, The National Institute on Drug Abuse (NIDA), US Department of Health and Human Services, American Society of Addiction Medicine.
While I will call it that because it’s recognized as a valid alternative to AA, I suspect that many of the meetings will be on happiness as well.

Richard D. Banton, LCSW graduated from West Virginia University with a Master of Social Work in 1998 at age 39. He has held various counseling / psychotherapy positions until April 2004 when Richard started working as a private practitioner. He has three children and two grandchildren.

Happiness Institute, Positive Alternative Counseling

Richard D. Banton, LCSW, 4608 Cedar Ave., Suite 114, Wilmington, NC 28403

Free registration, please call the Village Center at 301-656-2797
Open to all community members that have decided to better their quality of life and be happy. Please send inquiries, requests for programs, speaker and consulting services to: Friendship Heights Village Center, 4433 South Park Avenue, Chevy Chase, MD 20815

CANADIAN AMBASSADOR OF HAPPINESS :)

Happ-E-Quote :)

"Never doubt that a small, group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has." - Margaret Mead

Happiness is an inner state of well being. A state that enables you to profit from your highest thoughts, intelligence, wisdom, awareness, common sense, emotions, health, and spiritual values.

Happiness is one of the most important things in your life.

Happiness does wonders for your soul. Now is the time to learn to use happiness in dealing with challenges and difficult people in your life so you can develop the strength to prevail.

Practice "Premeditated Happiness," because happiness is an issue of power. We give our power to others for many reasons, and we think that they will make us happy. The truth is that we have given others power over ourselves. We can now take our power back in order to be happy again.

Reading this newsletter will not just make your life better; it will make the world a better place...because you have decided to be happy!

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"Don't let go of the vine." - John Weissmuller, from the film, Tarzan.

"If you are going through hell...keep going." - Winston Churchill

Life is full of opportunities. Go For It! Carpe diem!

Make the Happiness Decision Now!

This can be the best day for the rest of the "Best Of Your Life!"

THAT'S ALL FOLKS...NOW BE HAPPY!

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