Happ-E-Newsletter for February 15, 2008
Welcome My Dear Friend!
Richard Bach said: "We design our lives through the power of choices." How true this, ultimately it is the power of our doing or undoing.
Dealing With A Problem.
We all have problems. Problems are just a part of life. If you think there are people with no problems than you just don't know them very well. Everyone has problems, but not everyone can deal with their problems. If you don't know how to deal with your problem, that is the real problem.
Let's review! 1. You have a problem. 2. You don't effectively deal with your problem. Your real problem is your inability to deal with your problem. If you can't deal effectively with the problem, then you have two problems. Let's review this one more time. You have a problem that you can't or don't want to deal with. Now you have two problems because you did not deal with the first problem.
What is the solution to your problem? Who knows? Let's find out together what the solution might be. The first solution in solving any problem is not letting the problem become larger than your being happy. If you become unhappy, you really create a big problem. Staying happy allows you to maintain a balanced state of mind. You access the best thought power and intelligence available to you by remaining peaceful and calm. In this state of mind, by being happy, you can begin to see the best choices available to you right now.
Remember, if you become unhappy, you lose your effectiveness in finding the best solution to your problem. Fear is your biggest enemy and happiness is your most important and powerful friend and supporter. Have you ever realized how powerful your ability to make a choice can be? Making a choice creates your reality. We live in a cause and effect universe. Reality can be observed as a chain of events. It is a progression of cause-and-effect events. What you do in this moment causes the action that takes place in the next moment, which is the effect of the moment before it.
We live in a cause-and-effect universe, yet some of us are only living at the effect of everything, and are reacting to everything. By making the right choices you can get closer to being the cause of what you want in your world, rather than be at the effects of what you don't want. The key is to come to the realization that you have the choice to decide what to do in every situation. When you exercise your choice to decide what to do in every situation, you are acting from your own power of choice.
You need to face your choices. That is the power of choice. Knowing you have a choice gives you power. This is far more important than you may realize. The next time you face a problem, ask yourself what choices are available. You can only make the best choice available to you. But first you need to know what your choices are. Happiness can allow you to see these choices very clearly. In a happy state of mind you can deal much better with any problem. You can see what choices you have with clarity. This clarity enables you to deal with your problem effectively. List all the possibilities regarding your choices, than look at the two best choices in this situation, and choose the best one for this moment.
Once you have made a choice, go with it and let go of the entire situation. You have done everything you can do for now. If you find a better choice in twenty minutes, then select that one. In the meantime, your power to choose has accomplished many positive things. You have stopped worrying about the situation, started to realize your choices, and have decided to act on them. You can cause what you want to happen as a result of making the right choices. You can create a magnet of positive events. They start flowing toward you in your life. Your ability to make choices, or better yet, the right choices in every situation, gives you a step up to the best reality for the next moment.
You can choose the way you will act. You can choose what you will read, listen to, and what you will believe. You can choose what you will eat and drink, and what you will say and do. You can even choose to let go of fear, hatred, unhappiness, depression and self-pity. You can choose the best for yourself and choose the best in yourself. Finally, you can choose the best in everyone else as well. You can choose to see someone as a "teacher" rather than as an enemy.
Remember that you can only make the choice that you are aware of. Unless you are aware of a choice, you don't have a choice. Being unhappy puts you in a state of unawareness and in that state you will not see the choices available to you. Being happy allows you to become more conscious and aware of what your best choice may be. The next time you have a problem, what are you going to choose, happiness or unhappiness? What you choose expands. Your choice becomes your reality. Choose well my friend!
BE HAPPY ZONEby Lionel Ketchian. Published in the Fairfield Citizen-News on January 30, 2008
Bernie Siegel: Forgiveness Sets Us FreeClick here: Beliefnet Audio/Video Do you want to be free? Dr. Bernie Siegel says if you try to forget you won't get anything out of it, but when you forgive you give yourself an incredible gift.
Happ-E-Quote :) "The remarkable thing we have is a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past. We cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude." - Charles Swindoll
Happ-E-Book :)Lynette Turner has just published her wonderful book called: The 10 Be's of Positivity.
Lynette has presented many talks to our Happiness Club and she has done an outstanding job on this book. Congratulations and I am sure we will learn more about her book at our meetings.Click here: Lynette Turner: The 10 Be's of Positivity!!
Happy-Mail :)I thought you would enjoy this story in the New York Times. Best, Frank Click here: Teaching Happiness, on the Web - Well - Tara Parker-Pope - Health - New York Times Blog
Happ-E-Poem :)This poem by David Lazar
Happ-E-Quote :) "Nothing gives one person so much advantage over another as to remain cool and unruffled under all circumstances." - Thomas Jefferson
Happy-Book :)Conversations With Yourself, by Rabbi Zelig Pliskin. Available at: Available at www.Artscroll.com Rabbi Pliskin is A Self Talk Coach and Happiness Teacher.
Consider Different Plans.Someone who feels discouraged will not be able to think straight and will most likely overlook opportunities that he could benefit from. If something is important to you, don't think in a negative manner. Rather, try to think of a number of potential plans. One of those plans might work. The more optimistic and confident you are, the greater your chance of success. From Rabbi Pliskin's book: Gateway to Happiness, p.376, available at: http://www.eichlers.com or 1-888-EICHLERS See more Daily Lifts on "Despair"
"Nine requisites for contented living:
Health enough to make work a pleasure.
Wealth enough to support your needs.
Strength to battle with difficulties and overcome them.
Grace enough to confess your sins and forsake them.
Patience enough to toil until some good is accomplished.
Charity enough to see some good in your neighbor.
Love enough to move you to be useful and helpful to others.
Faith enough to make real the things of God.
Hope enough to remove all anxious fears concerning the future." - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
Happ-E-Free Seminar :)LIFE IS WAITING- ARE YOU READY? Attend a FREE Monthly Telephone Seminar with Dr. Cynthia Barnett
Happ-E-News :)Recent happiness articles and items of interest!
Happ-E-Quote :)"Enrich yourself so you can enrich the lives of others." - Gary Coxe
Dr. Cynthia Barnett's websites;www.doctorcynthiabarnett.com, www.primetimemakeover.com,
Date:Monday, Marcy 10, 2008
FAIRFIELD CONNECTICUT HAPPINESS CLUB :)
Date :)Thursday, February 21, 2008
firstname.lastname@example.org Meetings are free and open to all seniors. Meet some wonderful people using happiness in their lives.
FAIRFIELD, CONNECTICUT SENIORS HAPPINESS CLUB :)
Our next meeting will be a presentation called Happiness and Nutrition by Courtney Sansonetti, a Nutritionist. Come find out how what you eat can make you happier!
Date :) Wednesday, February 13, 2008
Time :) 12:30 - 2:00 P.M.
Place :) The Fairfield Senior Center, 100 Mona Terrace, Fairfield, CT 06824
The group facilitators are: Tony Derbyshire and Denise Stein, MS, LPC. Tony's phone: 203-904-3273 e-mail:
WESTPORT, CONNECTICUT SMILING SINGLE SENIORS HAPPINESS CLUB :)
Date :)Thursday, February 28, 2008
Date :)To be announced
Time :)7:00 - 9:00 P.M.
NEW HAVEN CONNECTICUT HAPPINESS CLUB :)
STAMFORD CONNECTICUT TEEN HAPPY CLUB :)
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