Happ-E-Newsletter for February 15, 2008

Welcome My Dear Friend!

Richard Bach said: "We design our lives through the power of choices." How true this, ultimately it is the power of our doing or undoing.

Dealing With A Problem.

We all have problems. Problems are just a part of life. If you think there are people with no problems than you just don't know them very well. Everyone has problems, but not everyone can deal with their problems. If you don't know how to deal with your problem, that is the real problem.

Let's review! 1. You have a problem. 2. You don't effectively deal with your problem. Your real problem is your inability to deal with your problem. If you can't deal effectively with the problem, then you have two problems. Let's review this one more time. You have a problem that you can't or don't want to deal with. Now you have two problems because you did not deal with the first problem.

What is the solution to your problem? Who knows? Let's find out together what the solution might be. The first solution in solving any problem is not letting the problem become larger than your being happy. If you become unhappy, you really create a big problem. Staying happy allows you to maintain a balanced state of mind. You access the best thought power and intelligence available to you by remaining peaceful and calm. In this state of mind, by being happy, you can begin to see the best choices available to you right now.

Remember, if you become unhappy, you lose your effectiveness in finding the best solution to your problem. Fear is your biggest enemy and happiness is your most important and powerful friend and supporter. Have you ever realized how powerful your ability to make a choice can be? Making a choice creates your reality. We live in a cause and effect universe. Reality can be observed as a chain of events. It is a progression of cause-and-effect events. What you do in this moment causes the action that takes place in the next moment, which is the effect of the moment before it.

We live in a cause-and-effect universe, yet some of us are only living at the effect of everything, and are reacting to everything. By making the right choices you can get closer to being the cause of what you want in your world, rather than be at the effects of what you don't want. The key is to come to the realization that you have the choice to decide what to do in every situation. When you exercise your choice to decide what to do in every situation, you are acting from your own power of choice.

You need to face your choices. That is the power of choice. Knowing you have a choice gives you power. This is far more important than you may realize. The next time you face a problem, ask yourself what choices are available. You can only make the best choice available to you. But first you need to know what your choices are. Happiness can allow you to see these choices very clearly. In a happy state of mind you can deal much better with any problem. You can see what choices you have with clarity. This clarity enables you to deal with your problem effectively. List all the possibilities regarding your choices, than look at the two best choices in this situation, and choose the best one for this moment.

Once you have made a choice, go with it and let go of the entire situation. You have done everything you can do for now. If you find a better choice in twenty minutes, then select that one. In the meantime, your power to choose has accomplished many positive things. You have stopped worrying about the situation, started to realize your choices, and have decided to act on them. You can cause what you want to happen as a result of making the right choices. You can create a magnet of positive events. They start flowing toward you in your life. Your ability to make choices, or better yet, the right choices in every situation, gives you a step up to the best reality for the next moment.

You can choose the way you will act. You can choose what you will read, listen to, and what you will believe. You can choose what you will eat and drink, and what you will say and do. You can even choose to let go of fear, hatred, unhappiness, depression and self-pity. You can choose the best for yourself and choose the best in yourself. Finally, you can choose the best in everyone else as well. You can choose to see someone as a "teacher" rather than as an enemy.

Remember that you can only make the choice that you are aware of. Unless you are aware of a choice, you don't have a choice. Being unhappy puts you in a state of unawareness and in that state you will not see the choices available to you. Being happy allows you to become more conscious and aware of what your best choice may be. The next time you have a problem, what are you going to choose, happiness or unhappiness? What you choose expands. Your choice becomes your reality. Choose well my friend!

BE HAPPY ZONE by Lionel Ketchian. Published in the Fairfield Citizen-News on January 30, 2008

Life is complicated, happiness is simple! LIVE RICHLY...PRACTICE HAPPINESS!
Everything we do in life is for the purpose of obtaining happiness! Happiness Empowerment to You! Reminding you to make the "Happiness Decision." Think Smart, Look Smart, Be Smart...Be Happy! Sharing Love, Peace and Happiness with you!

Happ-E-Quote :) Beware the barrenness of a busy life. - Socrates

Happy-Mail :) Check out the video....it's Bernie Siegel....enjoy your day! Keep Smiling, Bambi

Bernie Siegel: Forgiveness Sets Us Free Click here: Beliefnet Audio/Video Do you want to be free? Dr. Bernie Siegel says if you try to forget you won't get anything out of it, but when you forgive you give yourself an incredible gift.

Happ-E-Quote :) "The remarkable thing we have is a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past. We cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude." - Charles Swindoll

Happ-E-Book :) Lynette Turner has just published her wonderful book called: The 10 Be's of Positivity.

Lynette has presented many talks to our Happiness Club and she has done an outstanding job on this book. Congratulations and I am sure we will learn more about her book at our meetings. Click here: Lynette Turner: The 10 Be's of Positivity!!

Happy-Mail :) I thought you would enjoy this story in the New York Times. Best, Frank

Click here: Teaching Happiness, on the Web - Well - Tara Parker-Pope - Health - New York Times Blog

Happ-E-Poem :) This poem by David Lazar
A Key to Happiness
Being a master of gratitude
Finding more and more acceptance
Counting the many blessings of life
Blessing others in more and more ways
Blessing all of life and this very moment itself.

Happ-E-Quote :) "Nothing gives one person so much advantage over another as to remain cool and unruffled under all circumstances." - Thomas Jefferson

Happy-Book :) Conversations With Yourself, by Rabbi Zelig Pliskin. Available at: Available at www.Artscroll.com Rabbi Pliskin is A Self Talk Coach and Happiness Teacher.

Consider Different Plans. Someone who feels discouraged will not be able to think straight and will most likely overlook opportunities that he could benefit from. If something is important to you, don't think in a negative manner. Rather, try to think of a number of potential plans. One of those plans might work. The more optimistic and confident you are, the greater your chance of success. From Rabbi Pliskin's book: Gateway to Happiness, p.376, available at: http://www.eichlers.com or 1-888-EICHLERS See more Daily Lifts on "Despair"

Happ-E-Quote :)

"Nine requisites for contented living:
Health enough to make work a pleasure.
Wealth enough to support your needs.
Strength to battle with difficulties and overcome them.
Grace enough to confess your sins and forsake them.
Patience enough to toil until some good is accomplished.
Charity enough to see some good in your neighbor.
Love enough to move you to be useful and helpful to others.
Faith enough to make real the things of God.
Hope enough to remove all anxious fears concerning the future." - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Happ-E-Free Seminar :) LIFE IS WAITING- ARE YOU READY? Attend a FREE Monthly Telephone Seminar with Dr. Cynthia Barnett
These seminars are based on the answers to questions people have asked about happiness and retirement life planning some of the topics to be covered are, finding happiness and fulfillment, the power of gratitude, nurturing your strengths. No matter where you are in your retirement planning you will learn strategies to help you get READY for your prime time. On the telephone in the comfort of your home on March 4th.
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Happ-E-News :) Recent happiness articles and items of interest!
Pursuit Of Happiness Gorkhapatra - Kathmandu,Nepal Happy people bring happiness to their own life. Indeed, happiness is a choice for you to make, regardless of what blessing and tragedies have fallen upon ...

Happiness For Two by Alexandra Stoddard WTNH - New Haven,CT,USA (WTNH) - Achieving happiness, it's what we all want. But it can be a real challenge especially when it involves two people, who want and deserve to be happy ...

Check out my happiness-project movie! A one-minute story about ... Huffington Post - New York,NY,USA
As always, novelty and challenge can be intimidating -- but, just as the happiness researchers tell us, they give big boosts of happiness. ...

Happiness classes to cheer up folk in Middlesbrough ic Newcastle.co.uk - Newcastle,England,UK However, help is at hand thanks to psychological therapist Lesley Broadhead who is launching her "happiness classes" in the beleaguered town next Sunday. ...

Find happiness at EvCC Tuesday HeraldNet - Everett,WA,USA Happiness, now there's a thought. Happiness probably didn't pop immediately into your head, huh? Don't laugh. It's a hot topic, happiness. ...

Happiness at Work: Does it Matter? New York Times Blogs - New York,NY,USA By Marci Alboher Today’s guest post is written by Gretchen Rubin, who writes the popular blog, The Happiness Project. Ms Rubin is also working on a book of ...

Can You Teach the Pursuit of Happiness Online? GNIF Brain Blogger - Los Angeles,CA,USA While the philosophical and semantic ramifications of the term "happiness" are still far away from being well-defined on a universal basis, it is generally ...

What are you willing to do to be happy? CNN - USA Dr. Robert Holden, author of "Happiness Now" says chronic complainers like Reggie actually live in fear of happiness. Their condition -- which he dubs ...

Happ-E-Quote :) "Enrich yourself so you can enrich the lives of others." - Gary Coxe

THE HAPPINESS SHOW ON TV :) "The Happiness Show," is on every Monday 9:30 - 10:00 PM. Co-hosts are Lionel Ketchian and George Ortega. Cablevision of Connecticut broadcasts the TV show on channel 77. Airs in Bridgeport, Fairfield, Milford, Orange, Stratford & Woodbridge. View over 130 shows in streaming media and MPEG on your computer anytime at:

CLUB HAPPINESS, E-CLUB :) Everybody should join this club, try it, you'll love it!!!
We have created an online e-mail community for you to talk about and share happiness with people around the world. To join, just send an e-mail to:
clubhappiness-subscribe@yahoogroups.com and you will be notified. Or join here: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/clubhappiness/ Club Happiness is run by our good friends David Ambrose, living in Calgary, Canada and Iolanda who lives in Australia. For more information: http://happinessclub.blogspot.com/2007/04/club-happiness-e-club.html#links">Happiness

VIRTUAL HAPPINESS CLUB :) Dr. Cynthia Barnett will be our next guest on the Virtual Happiness Club Interview. Dr. Cynthia has been a valuable and empowering vacillator to many of our Happiness Clubs. She has run the Happy Teen Club in Stamford, Ct. She is the founder of the Virtual Happiness Club. One of Dr. Cynthia's messages to people is
Re-Fire, Don't Retire. Learn how to Re-invent, Re-vitalize, Re-charge Your Life. Dr. Cynthia is a Certified Retirement Lifestyles Coach and the author of Stop Singing the Blues and her new book: Prime Time Makeover: How to Make the Rest of Your Life the Best of Your Life. "Dr. Cynthia’s amazing ability to be extremely clear, articulate in simple language makes Prime time Makeover not only amazing roadmap for happiness and success but a pure joy to read." - Lionel Ketchian

Dr. Cynthia Barnett's websites; www.doctorcynthiabarnett.com, www.primetimemakeover.com,

Date: Monday, Marcy 10, 2008
Time: 7:00 - 8:00 PM, EST in the USA.
Your Phone number is: (712) 775-7000
Your Access Code is: 122856#.
The Virtual Happiness Club is free, just your normal long distance charges apply. The first 90 callers may participate. The Virtual Happiness Club meets one Monday each month.

Join us from your home, on your phone, on the VIRTUAL HAPPINESS CLUB with Dr. Cynthia Barnett. You can listen and talk with a great happiness teacher one Monday each month. Listen to an MP3 Audio interviews with Dr. Robert & Barbara Muller, Rabbi Zelig Pliskin, Professor Christopher Peterson, Ph.D., Professor Tal Ben-Shahar, Ph.D., Senia Maymin MBA, MAPP, Sarah Shapiro, the daughter of Norman Cousins, David Ambrose, Robert A. Nozik, M.D., Tania Jedian. You can listen to the entire one hour interview now at:

Our next Happiness Club meeting will have a presentation called: "The Art and Science of Health and Happiness" by Richard Kuepper. "By the end of this presentation you will re-ignite your passion for living, enjoy greater levels of happiness and fulfillment and have strategies for vibrant health and optimize your sense of well being." Richard was a head trainer with Tony Robbins for seven years and is President of L.E.A.D. USA, LLC, a CT based, corporate learning and development company.

Date :) Thursday, February 21, 2008
Time :) 7:00 - 9:00 P.M.
Place :) At the Fairfield Public Library, Rotary room, 1080 Old Post Road, Fairfield, CT 06824
Everyone is welcome; admission is free. Meet some wonderful people using happiness in their lives. Learn to have the peace of mind you need and experience happiness now. Future meetings at the Fairfield Library will be: Thursday, March 27th, Thursday, April 15th, 2008

Click here: Happiness Club: Directions to Fairfield Public Library

Our next meeting will be a presentation called Happiness and Nutrition by Courtney Sansonetti, a Nutritionist. Come find out how what you eat can make you happier!
Date :) Wednesday, February 13, 2008
Time :) 12:30 - 2:00 P.M.
Place :) The Fairfield Senior Center, 100 Mona Terrace, Fairfield, CT 06824
The group facilitators are: Tony Derbyshire and Denise Stein, MS, LPC. Tony's phone: 203-904-3273 e-mail:
derbyshirea@raveisre.com Meetings are free and open to all seniors. Meet some wonderful people using happiness in their lives.

Our next meeting will have a presentation called: "Have a happy Day Away" by Jill Meyer. Jill takes people on excursions within the Tri-state area and takes great pleasure in hearing their positive comments at the end of the trip.

Date :) Thursday, February 28, 2008
Time :) 6:30 - 8:00 P.M.
Place :) The Westport Senior Center, 21 Imperial Ave. Westport CT 06880.
Admission is free and the meetings are for people single and over 50 years old. Meet some wonderful people using happiness in their lives. Stay happy and healthy - get well connected. Stacy Enyeart is the group facilitator. Future meetings: Thursday, March 27, 2008.
If you are interested in attending these meetings you should send an e-mail to Senia Maymin at:
senia@senia.com. This way Senia can keep you updated on monthly events.

Date :) To be announced

Time :) 7:00 - 9:00 P.M.
Place :) NEW LOCATION! At the Cos Cob Library 5 Sinawoy Road, Cos Cob, CT 06807. This is behind the Cob fire station, near the Porricelli's. The group organizers are: Dusty Baldridge & Dusty's phone: 203-869-4988 e-mail:
lilabaldridge@yahoo.com and Senia Maymin, MBA, MAPP, Senia's phone: 212-920-0277, e-mail: senia@senia.com Meetings are open to everyone.

Our next meeting features a presentation by Anne Fasanella, R.N, B.S.N. called: "The Good Life" and "The Art of Living." Anne's talk will include: Secret techniques for lovin' life 24/7 and simple and practical solutions for how to cope with adversities, illness, pain, and depression.
Date :) Wednesday, February 27, 2008
Time :) 7:00 - 9:00 P.M.
Place :) At the E.C. Scranton Memorial Library, 801 Boston Post Road, Madison, Ct. 06443
Tina Garrity is the group facilitator. Tina's e-mail: Ting45@aol.com, phone: 203-245-2632. Everyone is welcome; admission is free. Meetings are held on the last Wednesday of each month.

The first meeting is scheduled for Monday, March 24th in New Haven CT. Meeting information, place and time will be announced.
Allison Aboud Holzer, CPCC, MAT, MFA is the group facilitator. The club will welcome all members of the New Haven community, but specifically target the student population at the local universities: Yale, Albertus Magnus and Southern CT. Allison will model the club after the Columbia University Happiness Club by Senia Maymin MBA, MAPP. The main goal will be to foster discussion around happiness among the student population. Given the kind of stress students feel these days with classes, on top of life transition away from home for the first time, a discussion around happiness will open the door for this population to stay in touch with what matters most to them.

Through Vision, Inspired ActionCoaching for Students and Recent Graduates of all Ages. Certified Professional Career and Life Coach, web site:
www.aaholzer.com e-mail: allisonaboud@gmail.com phone: 203.772.0897 If you are Interested in attending please let Allison know.

Open to all high school students. Meetings are held twice a month on Saturdays from 11:00 - 12:30 P.M. At the Daniel and Grace Tully & Family Health Center, 32 Strawberry Hill Court, Stamford, Connecticut 06902.
Nicholas Hall, MAPP is the group facilitator. Nick's e-mail:
nickhhall@yahoo.com For reservations and information contact: Rosalie at: 203 322-9990

Presented by Senia Maymin MBA, MAPP. Hosted in association with the Creativity and Personal Mastery program at Columbia Business School, as taught by Professor Rao. No dues, no registration and open to everyone! Any questions in advance, feel free to email me:
Date :) Tuesday, February 26, 2008
Time :) 7:00 - 9:00 P.M.
Place :) At Columbia Business School - Warren Hall Room 416 (4th floor) corner of Amsterdam and 115th street, Columbia University campus New York, NY 10027
Senia Maymin is the group facilitator. Senia is an Executive Coach and Editor-in-Chief of Positive Psychology News Daily. Ms. Maymin is an Assistant Instructor at the University of Pennsylvania in the Master program for Applied Positive Psychology. Senia's phone: 212-920-0277, e-mail:
senia@senia.com Meetings are held on the second Wednesday of each month. For more information www.Senia.com & http://hobby.meetup.com/7/

MENTORS HAPPINESS CLUB :) Our next meeting is Appreciation Day, and will be a tribute to our Club Facilitators and Mentors. It will be held on Tuesday, March 4, 2008 11:00 AM - 1:00 PM at Chase Bank, 1401 Post Road, (across from the library), Fairfield, CT 03825, at the 2nd floor conference room. Refreshments will be served. Reservations are necessary.


Connecticut meetings

Fairfield Happiness Club, Fairfield, CT

Fairfield Seniors Happiness Club Fairfield, CT

Smiling Single Seniors, Westport, CT
Teen Happy Club, Stamford, CT

Greenwich Happiness Club, Greenwich, CT
Bridge House Happiness Club, Bridgeport, CT
New Haven Happiness Club, New Haven, CT
Madison Happiness Club, Madison, CT
Mentors Happiness Club, Fairfield, CT

More Locations...

New York Happiness Club, New York, NY

San Francisco Happiness Club, San Francisco, CA

Diablo Valley Happiness Club, Lafayette, CA
Happiness Club of Lompoc, Lompoc, CA
The Happiness Club of North Carolina, Wilmington,NC
Happiness for Elders, Chevy Chase, Maryland

Jane Bradley - Caregiver Workshops,Ontario,Canada

Attend from anywhere...

Virtual Happiness Club, by phone
Club Happiness E-Club, online, email

The Happiness Show, cable TV, online

I would like to recommend the
Happiness Minute to you. David Ambrose produces this audio message just for you. Click here: Happiness Minute | Happiness in 60 Seconds a Week

Happ-E-Quote :) "Never doubt that a small, group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has." - Margaret Mead

Happiness is an inner state of well being. A state that enables you to profit from your highest thoughts, intelligence, wisdom, awareness, common sense, emotions, health, and spiritual values.
Happiness is one of the most important things in your life. Don't give away your power by being unhappy! Practice "Premeditated Happiness," because happiness is an issue of power. We give our power to others for many reasons. We mistakenly think that doing this will make us happy. The truth is that we have given others power over ourselves. We can now consciously reclaim our power and experience happiness. Happiness does wonders for your soul. Now is the time to learn to use happiness for dealing with challenges and difficult people so you can empower your life. Reading this newsletter will not just make your life better; it will make the world a better place...because you have decided to be happy!

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"May the good lord be with you, Down every road you roam, And may sunshine and happiness, Surround you when you're far from home." - Words from the song Forever Young by Rod Stewart

"Unhappiness is a form of suffering." Eckhart Tolle. "Do or do not. There is no try." Yoda. If you're not happy by now, it's time to have a talk with yourself.
Make the Happiness Decision Now! THAT'S ALL FOLKS...NOW BE HAPPY!

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